I don’t know if you have ever studied the languages of love, but I highly recommend it. I found out that my main language of love is acts of service. Why does this matter to you? Well, it might not. However, I had an epiphany when I realized that I feel loved, valued, cared about, when my husband does little things like check the air in my tires, vacuum, and do homework with the kids so that it’s done when I get home from work. I also show love with acts of service which is why I get such a kick out of doing random acts of kindness.
Is it any wonder that I struggle with my weight when I am so on-task that I forget to show myself love? I start buying lunch instead of preparing it for myself. I eat processed foods instead of fruits and vegetables for snacks. I stop taking time for bubble baths and exercise. My acts of service to me are an expression of self-love. It is easy to say no to temptation when I feel good and it is easy to feel good when I feel loved.
My point is, if you struggle with self-sabotage you may not be giving yourself what you need to feel loved, valued, important, etc… Maybe take a few minutes and review the languages of love and see what yours is; it may be that you are not feeding your soul what it really craves.
PS One of my acts of service is baking and cooking wholesome food for myself. When I don’t do this for myself I am essentially telling myself I am not important.
Here is my favorite banana bread recipe (it is gluten free and extremely low sugar)
5 over-ripe bananas (seriously, don’t throw out the all brown strong smelling bananas. This is the secret to the awesome flavor)
1/4 C coconut sugar
1/2 C ground dates
1/4 C stevia
2/3 C unsweetened apple sauce
1 teaspoon Vanilla
1 C brown rice flour
1 C oat flour
1 teaspoon baking soda
1/2 teaspoon salt
1 C chopped walnuts (optional)
1/3 C melted coconut oil
Preheat oven to 350. Beat eggs lightly then add mashed bananas, stevia, ground dates, coconut sugar, applesauce and vanilla. (I use a food processor) mix in dry ingredients. Fold in melted coconut oil and walnuts last. Pour bread batter into 2 greased loaf pans. Bake 50 minutes or until a toothpick inserted into the center comes out clean. Remove from oven and place on cooling racks for about 10 minutes and then turn the loaves out of pans onto the racks to finish cooling.
Enjoy the wholesome yumminess!!